August 2007 I was very sad. Life is difficult in Cambodia.
Other girls are happy but not me.
So what can I do???
How to find a nice, serious, good man for to marry?
My relative is married with a foreigner. So I was thinking by myself.
Why not try.
The problem was that my family is very poor and I worked in a Garment Factory for 50 US Dollar a month. It was the hell to work there. Many girls got sick after a short time.
So I talked to my relative who is married to a foreigner and asked her for help.
She promised to help me.
Now I am going to school and learn more English. I also learn how to use a computer.
My teacher said: Learning by doing and that's what I do now. Learn to write and use this blog.
On the Internet I put my photo on a website where men are looking for girls and girls are looking for men.
About this experience I wrote another time.
Most of the experience was negative but not all. So I focus on the good things, good people.
Specially to one man I have to say thank you. His name is IVAN and he gave me a lot of good advice.
There are many misunderstandings between Western and Asian culture and relationships.
In Cambodia when a woman meet a man and they go out for the first time never the
woman pay for the dinner EVEN she also has her own income.
When a man met a woman a few times the way he show her that he really like her
is to give a gift to her.
If a man telling a woman/girl that he like her so much but he never give her
anything (gift) no woman would believe him.
If a man telling a woman many times that he like/love her so much and want live
with her together. If he never gave her a gift before she never would
believe and and (of course!) never would live with him.
Now on the Internet if a man ask a woman if she want come and live with him. Why
do (some!) Western man think that a woman see them as serious if
they never showed it to the woman?
This men have no problem to invite a girl to a dinner which cost them (example)
50 US Dollar. They would not think that the girl only go out with them because
she want have a free dinner.
Now on the Internet (some) men even write in their profile that they hate it
when a girl ask for money and see her as not serious. We are talking here about
small money!
I am not talking about a girl which ask at beginning of the relationship for money.
I am talking about a man who know a girl very much and would like to be together
with her.
If you think that I am not right about this it would be interesting if you copy
and give this to a few other asian girls and ask for their opinion.
One mire thing
Of course a girl (which is serious) would never ask a man if he want that she
come to him. He have to ask her VERY clear (question) if she like to be with him.
A girl also would NEVER ask a man if he want to marry her. She has to wait that
he ask.
I believe what I wrote is MOST IMPORTANT if you are serious and want to be
engaged in the future.
I hope I wrote (with the help of a translator) clearly how Asian woman AND ME
are thinking about this.
So I ask you that you please ONLY write me back if you want a serious relationship.
Thank you very much for reading my letter.
Anni
